The most important lesson a child can learn is the lesson of respect. In fact, honor and respect are the only rules. All other rules are sub-rule of these.
Children, obey your parents in the Lord, for this is right. 2 ‘Honor your father and mother,’ which is the first commandment with promise: 3 ‘that it may be well with you and you may live long on the earth.’ ” ―Ephesians 6:1-3
This respect is shown is three fundamental ways:
Attitudes: There can be no true honor if there is not first a godly attitude. Rebellion is first nurtured in the heart—it is the product of sinful pride. “Nobody is going to tell me what to do!” Jesus quotes the prophet Isaiah saying, “This people honors me with their lips, but their heart is far away from Me” (Matt. 15:8). Children must show, and must me required by their parents and teachers to show, respectful attitudes toward their own parents and toward all those who hold superior positions over them, which is almost everyone (they should also display proper attitudes of respect toward their equals).
Words: Parental authority must be honored and obeyed with the child’s words and body language. Children must be trained to use the appropriate language of respect when addressing or responding to their parents (and other adults). When a child is permitted to use disrespectful language, or to ignore the adult who is speaking to them, this is a form of dishonor and disobedience. The scriptures teach us that we are to pray for those in authority over us, which would include our parents and teachers: “First of all, then, I urge that entreaties and prayers, petitions and thanksgivings, be made on behalf of all men, for kings and all who are in authority, in order that we may lead a tranquil and quiet life in all godliness and dignity” (1 Tim. 2:1-2).
Behavior: Children honor their parents and teachers by their actions. Submission, respect and obedience are demonstrated in what we do. “Eyeservice” alone is not sufficient to honor those whom God has placed in authority over us. When we obey our parents and other legitimate authorities we not only honor them, we honor God. This principle is taught in Col. 3:22-24: “Servants, obey in all things your masters according to the flesh; not with eyeservice, as menpleasers; but in singleness of heart, fearing God: and whatsoever ye do, do it heartily, as to the Lord, and not unto men; knowing that of the Lord ye shall receive the reward of the inheritance: for ye serve the Lord Christ.”