Wednesday, January 26, 2011

Self-Government


Parents, it's your duty to train your children to love God and to keep His commandments. You do this first by loving God and keeping His commandments yourself (Deut. 6:4-9). The goal is self-government under God. When your children (especially your teenagers), will not govern themselves under God, then you must govern them. You govern them by example and with your words. You also govern them with correction, direction, and discipline. You are the boss. God put you in charge. You do have the authority and He expects you to use it with wisdom. You train them to make wise decisions and you enforce that wisdom. You decide who their friends will be, what they will watch and read, where they will go to school, how to act and talk, how long to play, when to be home, what to wear, how to spend their money (including tithing), what they will participate in, how and when chores are to be done, and anything else that affects how they live before God and man. It's hard work, but it's your job. "Train up a child in the way he should go, and when he is old he will not depart from it" (Pr. 22:6).


5 comments:

  1. And your children are at what ages?

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  2. The age of the authors children is irrelevant. The message boils down to this: As a parent, we MUST DEMONSTRATE self control and seeking God, not just TELL your children to. This is true regardless of their ages.

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  3. My three children are all grown, married and raising my nine (soon to be eleven) grandchildren. They have turned out to be godly, self-governed adults who are not teaching their children to govern or be governed. It wasn't easy during the teenage years, but God has blessed the efforts.

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  4. Thanks Pastor Booth.

    I do believe you mean "NOW teaching their children" :)

    I assume, knowing you as well as I do, that you would lift rules and regulations as they mature?

    Also, would you distinguish between training and "telling them what to do?" Seems they overlap, yet are very, very different.

    Thanks for your posts.

    Still in the middle of it,

    Ed

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  5. Yes, thanks for the typo correction, that should have been "now," instead of "not." A letter makes a big difference. As they become more and more self-governed we should have to do less and less telling. Training by example and instruction are alway essential.

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