The head―the husband―the father, is not only the image bearer of God the Father and Christ the Husband, he is the image setter for the rest of the family culture (and ultimately the broader culture). Not only what he says, but more importantly what he does will become the model for the rest of the household and future generations. He is the cultivator of the vineyard and it is that cultivation (or lack thereof), that will be the basis of cultural fruitfulness (Pr. 24:30-34). If he is a man full of grace and godly character, he will act courageously with clear and resolute purpose, especially when no one else is looking. Like God, he is a man of his word; if he said he would do it, it is as good as done. A man who self-consciously and joyfully does his duty before God and man is respected by those who are under his care, and emulation of that character becomes the root of generational and cultural transformation.
Like the heavenly Father, an earthly father is a provider and protector, but he must also be one with the vision to lead the family (by example); to show them where they are going. Like Christ, he is the loving, sacrificing husband for his bride; and like the Holy Spirit, his labor manifests his true relationship with the Father and the Son. Christian family culture cannot develop and prosper without these clear images constantly being portrayed. Families are outposts of the Church―the Kingdom of God―and fathers and husbands are building little cities at those outposts. Leadership must have a clear and resolute plan.