Monday, November 10, 2008

Husbands and Lovers (3)

To be a truly great lover is to give yourself wholly to your beloved—all of you—the entire man. Give your wisdom, counsel, instruction, example, kindness, humor, conversation, complements, assistance, labor, patience, trust, joy, comfort, consideration, sympathy, attention, ears, eyes, hands, feet, praise, gratitude, thankfulness, laughter, affection, tenderness, time, touch, etc. Give all of this, and any other part of you that might have been omitted from this list, to your wife (and to your children). You are the priest of your house. Show your beloved what sacrifice looks like, and in so doing you will show them love. “He who loves his wife, loves himself” (Eph. 5:28).


  1. This gives me something to do right now and tomorrow morning, first thing. The husband as "spiritual leader" sounds like I am to come up with something innovative. But husband as priest excelling in sacrifice makes me want to do a little better tomorrow and makes even routine work spiritual. Thanks!


  2. It is written in Proverbs 31:28 & 29:

    Her children rise up and call her blessed;
    Her husband also, and he praises her:
    “Many daughters have done well,
    But you excel them all.”

    It is unlikely that these children so rise up and bless out of a vacuum. Instead, it is something they have learned because they have been steeped in it by watching "Her husband...praise her". If we, as husbands and fathers, do not 'bless' our wives by praising them in front of our children, they will be unlikely to do it. And not only will our children not 'rise up and bless', but our sons will not know to do it for their wives. And that would be a covenantal tragedy.